“Nobody ever has any success in life without the help of a friend.”
That’s what a successful businessman told me back in 2008 when I was on the brink of launching a publishing business from the ground up. I’d gone to solicit his advice, and his money, by way of advertising in a new publication.
He agreed to invest several thousand dollars in our publication, not necessarily because it helped him so much, but because he cared enough to pay something forward.
I’ve never forgotten that day.
I receive between 150 and 200 emails on any given day. Like most, I’m selective in what I read versus what gets “xd out” at first glance.
Late yesterday an email to my personal account carried a tagline “I value your opinion,” and almost certain it was spam, it was a good candidate for a quick delete.
I reluctantly clicked it anyway.
Turns out the email was from a fellow blogger with whom I’d struck up a casual relationship a month ago. We’ll call him Tom.
Tom basically said he was looking for a writing mentor. Here’s an edited excerpt from his email:
- He’s apprehensive about writing what’s on his heart.
- Transparency is scary.
- He really wants to make something of himself.
- He hates to ask anyone for help.
- But help is precisely what he needs.
- Have you ever desperately needed to share your heart, but bottled it all up for fear of rejection?
- Have you found yourself in a moment when you searched your heart for your true life’s calling?
- Are you simply too prideful or fearful to ask a friend for help?
Interestingly, Tom’s communicated with me at the very time when I’ve determined to say “no” to more things than I normally do.
By nature, I’m an over-extender, spread thin, and in the midst of trying to simplify life.